Comments on: Is the Future Bisexual?

By: Lost&Found

Lost&Found — Tue, 03 Dec 2013 11:25:32 +0000

I have been wondering for this whole time about the possibility of the future bisexual world. This is so enlightening!

The world is beautiful and labels should not be a significant part of people.
There are so many questions I was wondering about bisexuality and this article has answered most of my questions.

I am clueless about my sexual orientation due to the complexity of modernity in this 21st century (I am going to be 21 years old soon and in search, of the true self and have not had a relationship yet.) It sometimes can be so stressful and harshly painful.

I am always dreaming of having a family and love to be with a woman for the rest of my life, currently talking to this amazing girl. (I asked myself, is this because I was brought up that I ‘should’ and ‘must’ marry a woman since a childhood?)

I do watching gay porns and I looked mostly at their muscles and not enjoying their sexual organs. (I wanted a body like them, like a model.)

I am considered myself a nacissist because I have childhood traumas as being bullied in high schools and definitely learnt to care and love myself extremely.

With all these behaviours, will anyone would leave a comment to this statement about the possibility of the sexual orientation? Will I fall under the category of bisexuality?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 15 Jun 2012 06:41:48 +0000

Andrew, a detail: in Greece homosexuality was only encouraged in the cases of relationships between older men and very young men, who often for today’s standards would be considered minors. Adult men were supposed to have sex with women or very young men/boys. Homosexuality between two adult men was stigmatized too. This is sometimes misunderstood, but is a historical fact. Keep in mind also that in earlier days girls of age of 13 were getting married, etc. Different societies, different mores.

“Far more socially acceptable” to be a bi women? Bi women are stigmatized by heterosexuals as nymphomaniacs, sluts, “f…..g everything which moves,” objectified by hetero men as women who finally will make all their wildest kinkiest fantasies come true, called prudish when refusing, etc. Lesbians are more respected than bi women. Ask bi women who identified themselves as lesbians and as bi women, when they had more troubles,as lesbians or as bi’s. This article has errors, assumptions.

I share your hopes that things will change.Greeting.

By: Why sex-positivity has often scared the “fun and fearless” right out of feminism « The Delphiad Blog

Sat, 31 Dec 2011 15:03:35 +0000

[…] Women expressing bisexual interests are fetishized. Men expressing bisexual interests are shamed and bullied as “gay”. This is because the feminine is shameful and ridiculed, while the masculine is deified. […]

By: andrew

andrew — Fri, 29 Jul 2011 20:51:11 +0000

Hey, I found this very interesting, I certainly think that in the next 50 years western society will be far more sexually fluid. In ancient Greece, homosexuality, wasn’t just accepted it was encouraged, and I think Christianity probably has had a strong influence on making bi-sexuality or homosexuality the taboo it was and still can be today, but as attitudes change, as they already are, I think bisexuality amongst men will likely increase. My straight friend and I discussed this ourselves, as a gay man, I know I am not attracted to women, but I will describe myself as straight curious, as in I am open to have experimental sexual relations with a woman, my friend wouldn’t go that far himself, but he could understand my point and we considered that maybe in a few years time we could all be like that regardless of our preferred orientation. As our generation is probably the one with the most sexual freedom, it will inly increase as time passes, college dare games like gay chicken only prove that a small level of sexually intimacy between males can be fun, regardless of how straight you are!
I agree that it is far more socially acceptable for women to be bi-sexual than men, but hopefully it will change soon that nobody cares and people are free to explore the full pleasure of human sexuality

By: Matthew

Matthew — Fri, 10 Jun 2011 03:56:41 +0000

Freud’s Civilsation and it’s discontent. We “box” things because it makes us
feel safe even if it does not match reality. I was always surprised that peopl thought
they were “gay” or “straight” it never seemed real to me. Especially the behavior of so
called straight kids in grade school or high school. Perhaps everyone believes the world works based on how they see themselves. But I still believe Jung, Freud, and Kinsey were correct that all humans are bisexual and have polymorphic sexuality – some perhaps realize this and others don’t they need to box themselves.

By: Hanno Kirk

Hanno Kirk — Tue, 31 May 2011 16:39:16 +0000

I used to teach Human Sexuality. Two observations. Females in general tend to have less problem with gender bending than males.
One of the phenomena we see is that female roommates in college can become sexually active with each other. It is more convenient, and less hassle than getting involved with men, without the added risk of pregnancy. Then after graduation they may easily turn hetero and get married. We call this phenomenon Lesbian until graduation or LUG. Males tend to feel more stigmatized by homosexual contact, and find it harder to be at ease with bisexuality. As others have pointed out above, there are also sociological reasons why women would not be satisfied with a bisexual man as a long term partner.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 30 Jan 2011 10:59:35 +0000

Interesting stuff but I disagree with the fact that female-female relationships are more accepted than male-male, you just have to look at the number of lesbians compared to gay men on tv. Also, fictional f-f relationships are often based on and made for male fantasy.
Thanks

By: Pradip Gharpure

Pradip Gharpure — Wed, 29 Dec 2010 09:40:32 +0000

Society needs to accept,adjust and recognise such trend. By any measure sex is strictly a personal choice, no body has got right to intervene in it, unless it is antisocial in any manner.

By: VERONICA PAMOUKAGHLIAN, MA

VERONICA PAMOUKAGHLIAN, MA — Sun, 19 Dec 2010 13:12:45 +0000

I believe I read that in Italian on EL CORRIERE DELLA SERA
Cheers,
Veronica

By: Louis

Louis — Fri, 17 Dec 2010 23:31:55 +0000

Hey, great article. Is there any source for the claim that Veronesi makes: ” …the vitality of male reproductive cells has gone down by 50% since the end of World War II.”? Thanks.

By: Valerie

Valerie — Fri, 17 Dec 2010 15:18:20 +0000

Well as a bisexual i belive that most poeple try new expirences. But in my case i became bisexual because i had a wreally hard past. Also, wen i was in the 6th grade for some reason i was atracted by girls more then i was atracted. But i wreally never paid attention to that feeling. Until i was in the 8th grade that a girl asked me out and said yes. After that moment i though i was guy. But then we broke up and dated a guy. So i was confused, and did not n=know what my idententy was. Until i when to counceling and realized that i was bisexual. Not gay but bisexual. And you see know i have a girlfiend and she bisexual like me. Weve been dating for 1 year and 3 months. And she made me realize that i should not care in what other people think. That as long as we happy everything is all righ. But if it werent for my past i do not know if i would have met my girlfirend or bacame bisexual.
But i love the article.

By: Lektu

Lektu — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 13:24:00 +0000

It’s funny that you say “[t]oday, there is gay marriage in Argentina and the UK, in Sweden and parts of the US, […]”, as if that was a comprehensive list, ignoring the fact that the Netherlands, Belgium, Spain, Canada, South Africa and Norway legalized it years before those you mention (and then, there’s Portugal, Iceland, and parts of Mexico)… Also, the UK has same-sex civil unions, not full marriage.

By: James

James — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 19:56:41 +0000

This was really refreshing to read. I’ve always felt that labels like ‘gay,’ ‘straight’ and ‘bisexual’ could become redundant in the future. I can’t see any point in them at all: since sex is sex regardless of who you have it with I think any labels you try to apply to it are necessarily arbitrary.

I like sex with women and men but I don’t find it helpful to think of myself as fitting into any of the existing labels or categories because they all feel constrictive. I might feel more ‘gay’ one day but more ‘straight’ on another. I think without labels people might just be attracted to other people and sex could just be sex.

By: Veronica Pamoukaghlian, MA

Veronica Pamoukaghlian, MA — Wed, 08 Dec 2010 12:06:12 +0000

NOTE: It has been brought to my attention that the study of reference regarding the arousal patterns of self-proclaimed bisexual men is at least controversial, and its validity was contested by certain groups.

By: Veronica Pamoukaghlian, MA

Veronica Pamoukaghlian, MA — Wed, 08 Dec 2010 11:56:19 +0000

Wow, that is incredible.
I will surely check that out.
Honestly, I found the study to be cited and reported on by reputable source,
so never doubted its validity to those extremes.
Thanks a lot for the information.
Cheers,
Veronica